Turning Complaints into Insights: ISCAS Hints and Tips for UK Healthcare – Handling Complaints with Confidence – Part 2: Listen Actively and Show Empathy

“Sometimes, just feeling heard can completely change the outcome of a difficult conversation.”

How we listen can often matter more than what we say.

Here are a few simple but powerful ways to show genuine empathy and understanding:

  • Use active listening techniques – don’t interrupt, ask clarifying questions, and reflect back what you’ve heard.
  • Acknowledge their feelings – saying something like “I can see why you’re upset” helps defuse tension and shows care.
  • Avoid being defensive – focus on understanding the issue, not defending the organisation.

Empathy doesn’t mean agreeing with everything, it means making people feel heard and respected. Sometimes, a calm, kind conversation can be the turning point in resolving a difficult complaint